Step Three:
Encouraging All Efforts

Once your baby starts signing, you want to reward her efforts with lots of encouragement. Learning to sign is challenging for babies and a little encouragement helps keep them engaged.

Encouraging Baby to Sign

1. Introduction

Signing is naturally fun. Did you ever notice that babies who are just a few months’ old will often smile or giggle when you sign at them, even before they understand signing? Getting your undivided attention and knowing that you are trying to play with them is inherently enjoyable to babies; they have a natural curiosity and will find joy in learning how to communicate.

Fun is important because fun helps baby learn faster. When signing is a favorite part of her day, baby will be more motivated to try signing and stick with it even if it feels difficult at first. Fun is also important because it sets the foundation for future learning interactions. This is your first time teaching baby and you want to establish the pattern that learning from you is something he wants to do.

To keep signing fun, we set a playful tone, we use signs that baby is motivated to learn, and we sign at the right time and place.

Xaviera Receiving Encouragement

2. Approximations

At first, the signs your baby makes will only be an approximation of the proper baby signs. Babies don’t have the motor skills to do the signs perfectly, so they will make approximations. These approximations are usually a less-detailed version of the full sign and may barely be recognizable. Parents often miss these first attempts at signing if they aren’t on the lookout.

Approximations tend to involve the gross motor muscles but will be missing a lot of the fine detail. For example, the sign for daddy is properly performed be tapping the thumb on the forehead. Your baby’s first approximations will usually look more like they are just flailing their arms up and down. The baby may also use both hands instead of just one hand.

Timing of the initial signs is often delayed. The baby will often sign back as much as 60 seconds after you initiated signing. It takes a lot of effort for babies to control their arms and hands, so you will often see a look of intense concentration as the baby thinks about signing, followed by a burst of hand movements.

In the video above, note how Kennedy signs more (at the 0:30 mark) and uses only one hand instead of both. The movement is much too big and uses the gross motor muscles in the arm and not the fine muscles in the fingers. Kennedy’s signing is a few seconds delayed, but it is still quite clearly an attempt to do the sign for more, which her mom is rewarding by acknowledging the attempt and giving her what she wants.

These approximations and delays are perfectly normal. They are the way that all babies start to sign. With practice, signing will become more precise and more prompt as their fine motor skills develop. You encourage your baby to improve their signing by recognizing and rewarding their approximations.

Kennedy Approximating More.
(Courtesy: Eat Clean Play)

3. Stages of Signing

You will usually see three stages of progression when starting with baby sign language:

Stage One: Imitation

The first step toward signing is that your baby will start copying your signs.  A normal part of a baby’s development is to copy the gestures of the people around her.  So when you are regularly performing the signs, your baby will naturally copy you and make the signs right back. While she does not understand what her signs mean at this stage, she is learning how to perform the signs making this a useful first step.

Your baby will think this is grand fun.

Stage Two: Association

In the second stage, your baby will start to associate the sign with some concept. She may start making the right sign when something triggers the association. For example, she will sign dog whenever the dog is nearby. At this stage, your baby has made the connection between the word and the concept.

Stage Three: Communication

The last stage is when your baby starts using the signs to communicate something to you. For example, if she is hungry, she may sign milk. In this last step, your baby has learned that she can use the signs to communicate her needs and feelings to you. This is the stage where signing really starts to get useful.

Wyatt progressing from Imitation to Communication

4. Motivating Signing

When you see baby signing, particularly those initial attempts to sign, you want to encourage their effort. There are many ways you can reward the signing as follows:


The most powerful thing you can do to reward your baby for signing is to acknowledge their attempt to communicate. Knowing that you understood what they are saying is a tremendously rewarding experience for a young child. So if your baby attempts the sign for cat, give her your full attention and repeat back to her the word cat as well as the sign cat.


Respond to baby with enthusiasm, showing that you are excited about her signing. Show emotions and make exaggerated sounds and gestures to show that you are happy. You want to project a calm positive energy to show baby that she is doing something important. In much the same way you work hard to get a giggle out of your baby, your baby will want to work hard to keep getting this emotional reaction from you.


Where possible, if baby makes a request via sign language, you want to gratify the request. So if baby signs water, get baby some water. This will not always be practical, but where it is possible, give baby what she wants.

When you can’t get baby what she wants, still provide acknowledgement and emotion as positive reinforcement. It is rarely a good idea to ever ignore an attempt to sign. This creates more frustration for baby, because not only is she not getting what she wants, she is also not feeling understood.

Amelie: motivated signing

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9 Responses to “Step Three: Encourage All Effort”

  1. Catherine

    Ladies, thank you so much for this incredible service you are providing. It makes so much more sense to see the signs via video! I can’t wait to try these out with my son. Many, many thanks.

  2. Andy Johnson

    I am mightily impressed. This is good stuff. It is logical. Kids OUGHT to communicate with mom, dad, grandpa, grandma, with baby sign language prior to being able to do much with their voice. I think this is SO important that I plan to start pestering Florida school districts that the districts need to find a way to encourage baby sign language at the earliest possible age…with the district’s main goal being the improvement of the child’s spoken vocabulary. This is SO logical that I kick myself for not having suggested baby sign language with my first 2 granddaughters. I started looking at your websites and other related sites only after granddaughter #2 used the “more” sign when, at age 1.5 she wanted more food, at times when I was the babysitter! NOW grandpa will be using every opportunity to teach baby sigbn language to granddaughter #3 who is about 10 weeks old. Grandma and I will spend New Year’s Eve with her, doing some baby sign language as part of the celebration…while all the other adults are gone. (Now…on what I think is a related subject…I do think there are other examples where we teach things in the wrong order. Just as we should recognize that a child normally can probably sign before speaking…I think we should also teach typing, aka keyboarding, prior to making the poor kid hold a pencil and attempt to draw difficult shapes. Signing should come before speech. Similarly typing should come before printing.) From doting grandpa, Andy Johnson, Jacksonville\r\noops. P.S. When I was a member of the legislature, I was often involved in issues relating to the hearing impaired. (I was the sponsor of legislation which created the Florida Council of the Hearing Impaired back in 1979.) I think we waste lots of energy in Florida schools with sign language as the completion of the language requirement. BUT if one purpose in learning ASL in school could be for people who want to work with infants, baby sign language, then ASL in school would take on a better justification than merely serving as the easiest way to kill the language requirement.

  3. Nkechi

    I love your product and wish I had known this earlier to use on my now 8, 6 and 4 yr. olds. It just makes Parenting so much fun and easier. Now, seeing this for the very first time, I wonder how early should a parent or professional start signing with a baby?

    ADMIN – Hi Nkechi,

    Six months is a good age to start. You can start earlier, but it takes longer to see results and sometimes people get discouraged. At six months, you usually see results within a couple of month.

  4. George

    We’ve been signing pretty much since the birth of our little girl who now is 16 months old, but although she is very good at recognizing the signs and clearly understands them – she will pick up the cards when we do the signs or get her toys depending on what it is we are signing – she will only do a couple of signs back and often use the same sign for several things. Any suggestions on how to get her to use the signs more?

    ADMIN – Hi George,

    We had a similar situation with my niece. Given your daughter’s age you are about to have a verbal child so I would not worry that much. With my niece we created games of recognition using the flash cards and rewarded her with mini candy. We used the same approach for potty training.


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